Why love hurts and what you can do about it!
In fact, as a recent Suzuki documentary appears to confirm “Addicted to Love” is much more than just a Robert Palmer song title. Actually the way your brain is wired, being in love triggers the same chemical reaction as any other kind of addiction.
This is great when things are going well, but not so great when you separate.
Think withdrawal, that’s right, your brain handles separation the same way that it does with any other addiction. You become an emotional wreck.
Now imagine while you are already feeling emotionally overwhelmed you are faced with the unknown and terrifying prospect of resolving your legal matters.
In such an emotionally vulnerable state you are in no condition to deal with the stress of protracted legal proceedings. That’s why I suggest, unless it’s an emergency, to first consider your court alternative options, including utilizing either an experienced family mediator or collaborative divorce lawyer.
As both a family mediator and qualified collaborative divorce lawyer these options offer three key advantages over the traditional court process.
– Firstly, they are non-confrontational. This means there are no points to be scored through aggressive and adversarial legal proceedings.
– Secondly, they are emotionally supportive. This means they can provide a better and more sympathetic understanding of your and your ex’s emotional states, thus improving your decision making.
– Thirdly, they are future friendly. You and your partner get to decide your own future, not a judge.
There’s also something else you should do for yourself. Take advantage of available counselling for yourself. Also check out my kitchentabledivorce.ca support group which offers group members both legal guidance and professional counselling support.
Remember love hurts – but your separation or divorce doesn’t have to!