COVI-DIVORCE TIPS (PART 1)
It is widely projected to be the next wave of the pandemic, only this time the symptoms are not medical, but legal, namely COVI-DIVORCE. While the common expression “absence makes the heart grow fonder,” may apply in certain circumstances, because of couple’s enforced self- isolation, the expression “familiarity breeds contempt” is more apt to apply.
As a long time divorce lawyer, I have heard just about every excuse from clients looking to separate or divorce. Everything from not sharing the TV remote (or throwing it), to the more egregious infidelity, and everything in between.
So, I have developed four survival tips to help these who feel trapped and are looking for a way out.
Before taking steps 2 through 4, take some time to consider your options. Ask the question, is the relationship potentially salvageable? If the answer is yes, then I recommend marriage counselling, if not already tried. Of course your spouse also needs to be on the same page. If either party declines to attempt counselling, this is typically a sign that it’s time to follow my second tip.
If it appears the relationship can’t be salvaged, then be sure to get some legal advice from a family lawyer, not your friends, or anyone else not qualified to practice Family Law. I’m constantly amazed by clients who tell me that their spouse has already informed them of their legal rights, (SPOILER ALERT- the advice is never correct for obvious reasons), or that it would be better not to use a lawyer, (SPOILER ALERT- that’s because what they really mean it’s better if YOU don’t use a lawyer, since they already have.
(Keep reading the next blog- Tips three and four)